7 of us went for dinner after service last night. The conspiracy to make all the girls fat went well (we had Popeye).
Somehow, the conversation over dinner turned into a mini interrogation on one of the brothers regarding his current love interest (we all know who, lah).
Though he denied he has any, the ladies at the table were NOT convinced.
After dinner, 4 of us stayed around (including the brother) and the conversation continued.
*Below is a gist of what I can remember. There were other banters going on in between sentences which I can't remember.
ME: So, is there something going on between you and you-know-who?
Brother: No comments (blank face).
ME: So there is something going on, lah?
*Guys, when you don't want to comment, your answer as interpreted by a woman will be "yes there's something going on but I don't wanna tell you"
ME: The last time we saw both of you, you guys seem to get along really well.
S-I-L-E-N-C-E.
ME: So have you been out with her on a one-to-one basis???
Brother: Why you keep asking me about that? What about you and you-know-who-2?
ME: What's you-know-who-2 got to do with this conversation? We are concern about you! As your caring Sisters-in-Christ, we want to help you!
Brother: OK, can tell me what are your top 3 criteria in a dream man?
Pondering, I turned to Single Sister and asked the same.
Single Sister: Must be smart, financially stable, mature.
Brother: How much must he earn to be considered financially stable?
Single Sister: Hmmm, I can don't work lah. But I will want to continue working. I'll go crazy staying at home.
Brother: Then how much must he earn?
ME: 10k???
The rest: SO MUCH?!
ME: It's one person earning for two...... Or more. BTW, You asked about our dream man.
Brother: 10k a lot leh... so stress for the guy.
Married Sister: Aiyah, when you meet the right person, all these criteria will get thrown out of the window. By then you won't feel these are important anymore.
I totally agree with Married Sister.
Single Sister: A lot of time, it has got to do with timing. Two persons can be friends for the longest time, but are still oblivious of each other. It's just a matter of timing.
ME: So in time to come, will you consider Brother?
Single Sister and Brother looked at each other with utter disgust (I'm just exaggerating).
My take away from this conversation is that we all have criteria for our dream partner. But it will forever be a dream. Of course it's good to aim high, but you need to come back to earth and check the situation again.
If you are a woman around my age, this is the type of situation you are likely to be caught in:
(1) All the good guys are taken
(2) The remaining majority are gay
(3) Some are workaholics who doesn't want to get involved until a later time (i.e, not ready for commitment)
(4) There's a minority group of men who are nice and available, but you simply don't have any special feelings for them (i.e, can't click)
(5) For those who don't fit into any of the four categories above, they just can't be bothered about women
So, what's left?
As someone from the Romance and Relationship Conference put it, "It felt really hopeless sometimes".
You may think I am just consoling myself, but in my opinion, it is better to be happily single than miserably attached.
I agree with Single Sister too, that it's just a matter of timing.
So, let's be patient.